I’m not sure if this is the correct word to use , but, tonight, I had a girls night dinner with a friend. She has always been there for me with the loss of Steve and has taken me out to eat every couple of months or so. And even though she was not there for me when Steve was going through his treatments or wasn’t one of those people who would drop off a meal, and that’s another thought….

Listen, if you know someone who is ill, and it doesn’t have to be terminal… just stop by, with a meal, and even if you don’t want to spend time there , just drop it off and make it an excuse as you have to be somewhere else! At least, they think you thought enough about them and that gives them comfort and joy!!

…she is still my friend! And even though I don’t think we jive together and have a lot in common…. It’s a work in progress. I’m sure it’s partly both of our personalities and needs.

Tonight, as is every time we get together, and get caught up, and drink some wine… we ask about what’s going on… with husband… kids … work.

She’s been going through health issues with her husband, she’s now on a heart monitor.. but when she talked about her husband, there were tears that she wiped away.

I’m so sorry for what she’s going through, but I’m glad she opened up to me so I can be there for her, which when Steve was sick, we didn’t have that opportunity. I think because of what I’ve been through, makes her feel more open to me and she can let her guard down.

I really had no one to talk to. Not even one of our friends had gone through a spouse’s cancer treatment and experience. And now, …

I might be her help..

I might be able to be there for her before she even realizes that she’s reaching out for help

Just by talking and listening, I might just be the ear that needs to listen…

Help… I’m hoping that I am!